I was watching this psychology show the other day dealing with communication. There was this couple that was on the brink of divorce because all they did was yell at each other. One of the things the psychologist did was make them write down issues they needed to discuss on a piece of paper and discuss each of them calmly until they came up with a solution. Then once it was resolved, they had to rip up the paper and never talk about it again.
I was thinking about how people so often need a physical representation to fully accept change. Like being baptized. That is a physical representation of your new life with Christ. Or the couple with the ripped up paper representing the end of that discussion. I, myself have needed a physical representation to let go of something or to accept a change in my life.
My question…
Why is it that people need a physical representation to get past their struggles or fully accept the change in their lives or situations??
I’m cutting my hair off…
I need a change.
2 comments:
Emotions are powerful things. I think the problem is a person cant quantify an emosion, its a bit like a tide, like waves - sweeps you up and obscures your objectivity.
When something is represented physically it seems as a finite obstacle - what you see is what you get, and hence it seems easier to deal with.
Thats my take atleast...
I don't know if we necessarily "need" a physical representation, but it definitely helps. When I got out of treatment for alcoholism, I followed my counselor's advice and made several physical changes. My husband and I switched sides of the bed, switched sides of the garage, and switched bathrooms. The daily reminders of my change of life helped me to keep my toughest change at the forefront.
Maybe we do need physical representations... ceremonies... they help us remember important events and big life changes are important.
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